• STEP 5 - YAHOO! I'M ALIVE! (WHICH IS HARDER THAN I THOUGHT)

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► STEP 5 - YAHOO! I'M ALIVE! (WHICH IS HARDER THAN I THOUGHT)

STEP 5 - YAHOO! I'M ALIVE! (WHICH IS HARDER THAN I THOUGHT)

You're home free. Now the really difficult bit starts. You have to get on with the business of living and being as happy or stimulated or lazy or brilliant or stupid as you can and fulfil whatever your destiny holds for you.

There aren't any rules, but being gay can throw up problems that others don't have to deal with. These problems are mainly the result of prejudice from other people and you will have to find your own way of dealing with them. Things have changed enormously for the better in recent years, but we still don't live in a land where everybody gets sweeties and gum. And we probably never will. But remember just one thing: being gay doesn't make you good or bad, right or wrong, happy or unhappy ... those are just decisions you have to make once you've got used to being gay. So great good gay luck to you!

A GENERAL WORD OF WARNING

If you're gay, you may be a fairy but coming out isn't a magic wand.

Just coming to terms with your lesbian or gay sexuality can create problems in the short term. So take it easy. Don't expect some magical world to open up immediately. But, on the other hand, it will be a lot, lot, lot better than being trapped in a twilight zone of indecision in your own mind.

Coming out is not some cure-all for every problem in your world. Don't forget you're still the same person both sides of the line.

Last step if you need any more help or advice, Step Six

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